Fresh Start
Learned Behavior and Mental Strongholds
Learned behavior and mental strongholds are related concepts but have distinct differences: 1. Definition: Learned behavior refers to actions, responses, or patterns of behavior that are acquired through experience, observation, or instruction. It encompasses a wide range of behaviors that individuals acquire and develop over time. Mental strongholds, on the
Personality trait Vs Past Trauma Response
A personality trait refers to a stable and enduring pattern of behavior, thoughts, and emotions that characterizes an individual. These traits are believed to be relatively consistent across different situations and over time. Examples of personality traits include extraversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, neuroticism, and openness to experience. On the other hand,
Combat Limiting Beliefs
Combat Limiting Beliefs… Have you ever known what you needed to do, but for some reason, you never could get it done or move past it? You felt stuck and possibly even unsettled. Maybe you want to reach a certain goal, but it seems like it will never happen. What’s holding
Signs You’re in an Abusive Church
The Christian church is to be loving and grace-filled, a place people can go to for encouragement and support in their spiritual lives. Unfortunately, instead of love, many have experienced harm; instead of grace, abuse. The prevalence of the #churchtoo movement testifies to this sad reality. Abusive churches, acting in the
How to Be the Most Likeable Person in the Room
“One of the biggest mistakes I still make is caring way too much about what people think of me. People I barely know. When I moved cities I spent the first few moments of every conversation trying my hardest to impress. I’d whip out my best anecdotes and name-drop like nobody’s
Tolerance vs Acceptance
I was told recently by someone that he tolerates me, and I wondered what that meant in relation to what I believe about tolerance and acceptance. I also wondered how intense his dislike was for me, and at what point that dislike would turn into intolerance. Since there appeared to
Acts Of Kindness
It doesn’t take a lot of effort to dramatically change another person’s day. Remarkable people are always thinking of others and looking for ways to positively influence and contribute. Making a difference is an organic urge in exceptional people. If you want to make a real difference in the lives
Success by Embracing Change
Change is a big part of being successful. Not only is change good (if you don’t believe me, look at the fashions of the 70s and 80s), but it’s accelerating at an increasingly rapid pace. While it took 75 years for 100 million users to adopt the telephone, it only took
Is respect earned or given
When you’re in a leadership position, it is imperative that the people with whom you work respect you but respect is never a given. It must always be earned. Your team might respect your work habits, your intelligence or your ability to close a deal but there’s more to respect than that. If you
Forgiving Others or Seeking Forgiveness from Others
Remember we get hurt by what others do to us but we also do wrong to others… there is a difference between the way we forgive and seek forgiveness… recognising this difference is critical to how we respond in order to put things right. _________ o0o _________ When we have
Who says “I don’t want to be here”
Some years ago, I transitioned from running my business to studying Aged and Disability Care. I worked in a high care facility, and on a team of Carers in an independent living estate. During this time, one thing I often heard were the words “I don’t want to be here”
How Did You Get This Way…?
During a time with people who ask for help to find and understand the answer to this question, I ask some questions about progressive points in their life. Early childhood, middle school, teenage years, relationships etc. In the space of about thirty minutes I find there is a remarkably similar
declutter without making a mess
Decluttering often makes a HUGE mess! Today, let’s talk about how to declutter without making a mess. Keep the area you’re decluttering neat and tidy while you organize and simplify it. This works so well, I’m excited to share it with you today! I was able to visit with Dana
Is your phone an idol?
I have always been opposed to restricting phone use as a punishment or a way of discipline for a family member…!!! And here’s why! Most people think Technology is neutral, but it’s not, it has value and presence like any other idol. Yes, we can learn from this. I do
Overcome the Invalidation Game
Once a narcissist begins invalidating you, it is very tempting to become drawn into a competition you are sure to lose. Here is a winning strategy so you will be able to walk away from those episodes victorious. Hint: Your version of winning will not be the same as the
Disarming words in a conflict
“Someone disrespects me but I cannot disrespect them”…? Yes, that is correct. Describing someone who is not emotionally invested in a relationship with you, and when in conflict you would be just a pawn, where nothing gets resolved. Recognising this you would probably be seeing narcissistic tendencies in yourself or
Introduction to Fresh Start
In order to Start we need to look at some ground work by looking at how God reveals Himself and His will to us. Theological teaching shows three means of this happening, through divine revelation. General Revelation, Special Revelation and Ultimate Revelation. Jesus Christ is the Ultimate Revelation of God.
Resolving a past conflict
You have no control over a primary emotion, developed in the past, when it is triggered. It doesn’t do any good to feel guilty about something over which you have no control. But you can seek to resolve the past conflict and you can immediately evaluate the present circumstance to
Five Ways to Fulfil Your Potential
In life, many people do not reach their full potential. We can become so caught up in the everyday that it is easy to continue in old patterns rather than change. Yet, we all have a God-given desire to live to our full potential. For some people, that just about
Resolving Spiritual Conflicts
Knowing that I cannot repent, renounce, forsake, forgive or submit for someone else, I hope to point out how to recognise when these things are overlooked and what to do about it. Fresh Start… what does that even mean? I think it means what many others have told me their
